Middle School Cotillion – Manners for Life

We have two different middle school programs for Sixth Grade and for Seventh-Eighth Grade.

Sixth Grade Program

The Sixth Grade program focuses on basic social skills, party manners and dining skills to young students who are entering what can be an awkward age. Dances include the beach shag, box-step and other traditional dance. Our goal is to help them be comfortable in new situations, to give them skills to make new friends and to ease the awkwardness of mixed gender events. They leave with a good dose of self-confidence! Classes have equal numbers of girls and boys and students are accepted on a first come, first served basis.

Putting your best foot forward:

  • First things first: Shaking hands, introductions, sitting and standing, and buffet manners

  • The “man” in mannerly/ladies first? Not so fast!:  Rising, jackets, doors, seating, primping, and excusing yourself

  • Correspondence: Thank you notes, email, and RSVPs

  • The sock hop: Invitations, RSVPs, party manners, dance etiquette, and buffets

  • Dining with grace: Place settings, table manners, and mini-meal

  • May I have this dance? Formal and semi-formal occasions, final ball, and waltzing with mom or dad


Seventh & Eighth Grade

The Seventh-Eighth Grade program is  formatted so that students who did not attend 6th grade classes can still join their classmates in 7th or 8th grade. The curriculum is new even to students who attended cotillion in 6th grade, though we do review the basics over the course of the season. The dance component is also different so everyone starts from the same place.  This program is event driven and gives students real life experience in a variety of social situations such as meet and greets, interviewing, theater, a golf and country club experience and much more.

Social Survival Skills:

  • No Blunder  Basics: Manners in Public/Meeting and Greeting/First Impressions
  • Sports and Country Club Etiquette:  Golf clinic, sports etiquette, ordering from a menu.
  • Interviewing: Interviewing Skills/Mock Interview/Dressing for Success/Following Up
  • Theater Event:  Alhambra Theater/Manners in Public/Why they're important and how bad manners affect others/Dining Event
  • E-Etiquette: Cell phones and texting/SocialNetworks/On Line Protocol/Privacy
  • Foreign and Fancy Foods: Handling food that’s hard to eat/Ordering from a Menu/Tipping
  • What's all this stuff on the table? Formal Dining/Five Course Meal/Toasting/RSVPs
  • Being the Best Guest: Parties/Overnights/Being a Houseguest/Thank you notes
  • Dinner-Dance: Putting it all together

2018 - 2019 Manners for Life Schedule

Class Assignment will be announced 30 days prior to the beginning of classes. Times subject to adjustment

Registration closes on July 15

6th Grade
San Jose Country Club

Sunday, August 19

Sunday, September 16

Sunday, October 14     4:00-6:00
(Sock Hop UNF)

Sunday, November 11


Sunday, January 13

Saturday, February 9
Black & White Ball
John A. Delaney Student Union
1 UNF Drive, Building 58, Third Floor
Parking: Arena Garage
(across the street, 2nd, 3rd or 4th floor)

6th Grade
Marsh Landing Country Club
5:15 - 6:45 p.m.

Thursday, August 23

Thursday, September 13

Sunday, October 14.  4:00-6:00
(Sock Hop UNF)

Tuesday, November 6* 


Thursday, January 10

Saturday, February 9
Black & White Ball
John A. Delaney Student Union
1 UNF Drive, Building 58, Third Floor
Parking: Arena Garage
(across the street, 2nd, 3rd or 4th floor)


7th - 8th Grade
All classes will be held at San Jose Country Club unless otherwise noted

Saturday, August 18, 2018
(Pizza Mixer) 2:00-3:30

Saturday, September 15, 2018
(Interviewing/Foreign Foods) 2:00-4:00


Saturday, November 10, 2018
(Golf Outing) 10:30-1:00

Sunday, December 2, 2018
(Alhambra--ELF) 10:30 – 3:-00

Saturday, January 12, 2019
(Monarch Studio-Dance Lesson) 2:00-4:00

Friday, February 8, 2019
(Dinner Dance) 6:30-9:00

Dress Code

The dress code is an important aspect of teaching students respect for each other, for their host/hostess and the shared values of our culture.


Ladies should wear dresses or skirts of knee length or longer. A dress with shoulders or spaghetti straps (sundresses, halter dresses, etc.) may be worn only if  covered with a shrug, sweater or other wrap during the entire event. Pants, gauchos, leggings, etc. are not appropriate. Ladies are encouraged to wear closed toe shoes suitable for dancing. Flip-flops, athletic shoes and boots are not allowed. Short white gloves will be provided at the first class.


Gentlemen should wear a dress shirt and tie, navy blazer and khaki or gray pants, belt, dark socks and dress shoes (no athletic shoes or flip-flops).

The End-of-the-Season Ball is black tie optional. Specific information will be provided closer to the time of the event.

Seventh-Eighth Grade Program:  The dress code above is generally used for seventh-eighth grade but some of the classes require a different dress code and will vary. Students will be asked to dress appropriately for each class (golf, theater, dance class, meet and greet)  and information will be provided prior to each class.

John A. Delaney Student Union

1 UNF Drive, Building 58
Jacksonville, Florida 32224